Frances and her happy husband Luis |
attempted to come out of my shell by trying out for the cheerleading squad and track team." Without experience Frances gave it her best shot! "I knew that in the future, challenging myself and living up to the expectations I placed on myself was more important than what others thought of me. I started to work on becoming a better person and gained the knowledge of what it means to be true to ones' self." Fast forward to high school graduation. "Graduation for me was a feeling of freedom. I detested dealing with the structure of the academic world." Wisely Frances chose to attend The School of Technology in Pittsburg. "Pittsburg held many first time experiences." Frances made the decision to begin attending the 'Church of God' while she lived in Pittsburg. At the age of 19, Frances returned home to West Virginia and took a job as a keypunch operator. "My father had me under a microscope and I attributed this to my mother's absence from our home. The stress of my father's scrutiny was hard to bear." Frances met her first husband, Joe Langford at a dance club. Joe had been married and divorced and he had three daughters named Michelle, Cynthia and Sherry. After a time of dating, on Christmas Eve 1971, Frances married Joe and moved to Bellaire, Ohio. Their son Joseph Jr was born in 1972. At the age of 22 Frances had become a wife and mother of four. "Bonding with the girls was a bit of a challenge. Battling with personalities, fear and insecurities did not stop us from becoming a family." After one particularly hard cold winter, the family moved back to West Virginia. Frances was able to stay home with the kids while Joe worked. "Hindsight is 20 20, yet the vision I used to navigate through my marriage to Joe was blurred at best." Frances
searched her heart and decided she cared about Joe, but she did not love him. Joe had a drug addiction with fits of anger. Various drug rehab options were tried, and in the end Joe became less dependent on drugs and it was time for a new baby. Clinton Abraham was born on May 8, 1980. "Living with Joe was one bad ride after another." Frances filed for a divorce. Finally free from Joe, Frances sampled all the world had to offer. Through the bar scene she met a man named Larry. He seemed to have a good heart along with some bad habits. Frances got married to her 2nd husband Larry in April 1983. "While married to Larry their daughter Ashley was born. "Larry was not happy as a family man. He started to complain and his verbal and physical abuse towards my son Clint worsened. I was emotionally drained and my family was in ruin. Larry had gotten me to believe that I was a worthless human being." Frances went back to church and her faith was reignited. On October 22, 2002 Frances surrendered her ways and was baptized. God was preparing Frances for what He knew was coming. In January 2003 Frances had filed for a divorce after 20 tumultuous years of marriage to Larry. "As I was sitting in church with my mother and my daughter Ashley, it became essential that I keep my daughter safe. After a brush with the law, one afternoon I called my daughter and asked her to come home. I did not know that this phone conversation would be the last I would ever have. The last words Ashley said to me were "I love you momma!" Within an hour, on January 21, 2003 Frances got the call that no mother is prepared for. "You daughter was killed in a car accident." Her dad attended the funeral and Larry said "Well there is nothing more between us so we may as well finalize our divorce." Shortly after the funeral God sent three timely messages of comfort from a few of Ashley's friends.
"God always sends us what we need, when we need it. One hard day I went outside and directly over my house was a double rainbow with a glowing gold ball at one end. It was a sign from God for me and I felt a comfort in my spirit that my daughter was now in heaven." Frances took time to grieve and in 2005 she purchased a timeshare with her cousin Velma in Puerto Vallarta. "I was not interested in dating or having a relationship and I had turned off my ability to recognize subtle flirtation." It was while touring PV that Frances met her current husband Luis. After a few adventures Frances and Luis got married in West Virginia at the West Liberty Christian Church on July 18, 2012. Frances got busy unloading 40 years of accumulations to move to Guadalajara. The newlyweds moved a few times within Jalisco before they landed at Lakeside. In April of 2016 the eldest step-daughter of Frances, Michele.... called to inform that she had cancer. Michele insisted that she was fine and that she did not want visitors while she was taking chemo. On June 29, 2016 Michele died with her two sons Zachery and Shane nearby. "We all need to be ready to spend eternity in heaven or hell. God has given me 'words of knowledge' or a premonition about 'being ready' on several different occasions. We are all here for a limited time, so prepare your children and your loved ones by talking to them about Jesus, now." Matthew 24:4 "So you also must be ready, because the Son of Man will come at an hour when you do not expect Him." Today Frances lives without regret as a Woman of Faith who trusts in God, in His ways, and in His timing.
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